Chandra Crane shares her journey of being family to a graduate student and unpacks ways of engaging in the unique journey of having a loved one in graduate school.
There will be times when your graduate student needs more strength, endurance, time, and patience than what she actually possesses.
The nature of grad school is a weird nexus of too much information (Here are 800,000 pages. Please read them by last week) and not enough information at all (Please figure out all the Things. Please create your own efficient life schedule. Please have a Fortune 500 CEO level of organization, motivation, and enthusiasm. Here is your $5 graduate school stipend).
I left a highly secure job as a high school teacher in a beautiful suburban setting, teaching subjects that I loved most to share. Life was ideal and my income was strong. Yet, God had other plans. Within five years, my husband and I had four children and in the sixth year my mother had a paralyzing stroke the month before my husband was to start graduate school.
A congressperson once asked a scientist, “Why should we keep funding so many research projects when such a small percentage actually make important contributions to human society?” The scientist replied, “You are right that very few projects have profound results. But the problem is that we don’t know beforehand which few projects will be the important ones! So we have to do them all.” I see an important parallel to family life here.